Thank you. I lost a nephew yesterday, a man younger than my children, so the subject is much on my mind right now.
I am sorry for that. It is hard when somebody young passes away. You and your family are in my thoughts today.
And at my age, my own death is looming, and the same is true for most of my circle of friends. I'm not afraid of being dead, although I don't look forward to pain or disability.
Yeah, for those of us with "more yesterdays than tomorrows," it's a topic that merits a bit of thought. As I have crossed the threshold where I now attend more funerals than weddings, it has become something I am certainly more aware of!
I agree with you, I am not afraid of being dead, though I suspect for different reasons. I will strive not to get preachy here, nor to proselytize, but I come from a position of believing in the "sure and certain hope" of something more to come, something good. But as there will be plenty of "time" for that, and there are still a number of things I want to do BEFORE dying (that seems the best time frame for things like visiting Antarctica, for example) I am not in any hurry and hope to live on for a good time yet. (And, like you and I think most everybody, the physical and mental impact of entropy catching up with us is something I don't like at all!)
But as my ol' kite flying mentor puts it, "Everything always comes out alright in the end. So if everything is not alright, it's not the end yet!"
The fear inherent in religion is damaging to many, and to society as a whole.
That made me do a double take. I absolutely understand where you are coming from on that, but my own experience has been so positive and joyful (other than having to go to Sunday School as a kid, which I did not want to do at all!) that I was taken aback a bit, even though it is not a new-to-me nor unexplored concept.
If it were me (and it was not, it was you, and I am not here to tell you what YOU should think, just what I think!) I'd rephrase the first bit as I think the fear and use of it by organized religions in some times and places is inherent in the organization and the people, not necessarily in the religion. The message I have received from my faith has been "Be not afraid, I bring you Good News of glad tidings!" rather than fear. Obviously that is not always the message delivered, which is tragic. But like witnesses to anything else, witnesses to faith are human, and often get the important bits wrong.
And that is about as far as I guess I want to or ought to go -- I am not here to evangelize the skeptics of MetaBunk!
PS: While I have never found the views of Marcus Aurelius, Marcus Cicero and the Stoic philosophers to be particularly consoling, many others have, and they are in any case at least interesting and it might be worth dipping a toe into their writing on the subject if you have not already. I do like a line from Cicero,
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The life of the dead is placed on the memories of the living. The love you gave in life keeps people alive beyond their time."
I am reminded of the concept, expressed by several folks, that life is like a stone tossed into a pond -- it happens, you make a splash and then it is over... but the ripples keep spreading, all across the pond. I like the idea of living life so that our ripples keep spreading for a long time.